Kids... More then just our future.

Kids...
I write this blog because of my constant relationship with my children. I personally have seen alot of families and lived with many. Part of me being a good parent was to learn from these parents. Lets not forget the biggest lesson of parenthood. I speak of our self restructuring mentally and physically. Being a parent is being a slave to your children. But success only means you want to be a slave to your children. This means sacrafices both out of the house and in. This is all for the pure benefit for the little ones who are developing by the day if not hour. With this in mind I continue...

Children are sponges from the day they are born. Starts with sound and touch. Then discovery and comes associations. My point is time, to be a good parent is to understand your children. This takes time, but the more time you spend the more your child absorbs and you discover. This naturally develops confidence within yourself. Here is what I mean. You as a parent will have more confidence understanding your child when they are not able to speak at all. Illness can be caught much faster by a parent who understands the day to day, hour by hour patterns. You may say... "What about the 8+ hrs I have to be at work?". And I would then ask "What are you doing the rest of your 8+ awake hrs?". Remember THEY ARE SPONGES, it is in your best interest as a parent to participate regularly with your child. But remember daily patterns are essential.

Why now are patterns so important? Simply because a child between 1 to 3 years are effected by how you go about your day. Lets take this senerio for example. You leave for work at 5:30am and normally you get home around 3:30pm. This would be a pattern your child is aware of. They understand this happens everyday. Children are more acceptable to patterns then they are for things, places and even people. These "out of the ordinary" circumstances will effect the mood of your child. Either good, shy, or bad. Let me give you an example with what I have discovered as a parent. Due to our family eating dinner around 5 to 6 we are always home at dusk or just before. Our daughter has picked up on this pattern and understands at that time of day we will be going or already at home. So there are times she tells us she is ready to go home. Or if you think she is to have a melt down due to all the fun she is having, she has no issues with saying "bye-bye" and walking out with us. I attach this directly to her knowing our daily patterns and what she knows is life. If we stay after dark it is harder for her to let go and go home or she becomes burnt out and angry. We break the pattern resulting with her having a different discovery she doesn't sometimes want to end. And once again you must understand your child.

I have seen people struggle with their children. And I won't go on until I explain how much I understand how complex parenting is. I dont' go around looking for fault. I am looking for bad and good ideas for the better good of my own kids. I can only figure out what is best for my kids that fit the moral and structure of the family and society (but family first). I cannot judge other parents. Your children will be the first to react to any change of tone in your voice or change in patterns. And I see this factor a big problem with parents who struggle in public with their kids. So I say, remember your child(ren) is a sponge. They will develop your method of communications. So you should understand being sensitive around your child will only give them comfort and calm. This can only be successful if practice from birth. With this practice alone you yourself as a parent will also change and develop these habits as part of who you are. The responses you receive will be rewarding.
My point really is that our children can only rely on us as parents and as parents we must rely on ourselves to communicate and spread fun. Even if you have to instruct, there is no reason why you cannot make it fun.